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title: A Woman Should Have
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[Kirsten Waerstad](http://kirsten.net/)

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## [A Woman Should Have](https://humanism.org/MyBlog/tabid/778/bid/531/A-Woman-Should-Have.aspx)

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Great reflections by an unknown author

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE

...one old love she can imagine going back to...  
and one who reminds her how far she has come...  
...enough money within her control to move out and rent a place   
of her own even if she never wants to or needs to...  
...something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams   
wants to see her in an hour...  
...a youth she's content to leave behind...  
...a past juicy enough that she's looking forward   
to retelling it in her old age  
...a set of screwdrivers,   
a cordless drill,   
and a black lace bra  
..one friend who always makes her laugh  
... and one who lets her cry  
...a good piece of furniture not previously owned   
by anyone else in her family  
...eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,   
and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored  
...a feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

..how to fall in love without  
losing herself...  
...how to quit a job, break up with a lover,  
and confront a friend without ruining the friendship...  
...when to try harder...  
And when to walk away...  
...that she can't change the  
length of her calves, the width of her hips,   
or the nature of her parents  
...that her childhood may not  
have been perfect... but its over  
...what she would and wouldn't  
do for love   
...how to live alone  
even if she doesn't like it  
...whom she can trust, whom she can't,   
and why she shouldn't take it personally  
...what she can and can't accomplish in a day,  
a month and a year.  
..where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table  
or a charming inn in the woods...when her soul needs soothing

Posted by [Kirsten Waerstad](https://humanism.org/myblog/author/kirsten-waerstad) on Sun, Aug 13, 2006 @ 13:08 PM

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